on absence...

How do we deal with absence? If one of us leaves, is he or she the one responsible to stay in contact, meaning personal one to one contact or is that a mutual responsibility? Is it easier for the one gone into a new life to deal with absence as the void is less visible or is leaving not also isolation oneself? And once you have become used to an absence and it continues to be felt only in nostalgia of how it once used to be but is not an actual emptiness in everyday life, can you reestablish contact? And can it feel natural or is it forced? Should you force yourself and/or another into it because you once felt so perfect together and could not fathom being alone, if the continued exchange is not happening by itself out of a shared need? Do some relationships only have meaning in close proximity and is this a bad thing? Is it not also natural and can it not also mean that even while you might be out of one another's life, if and when you meet up again it feels as if none of you had ever left? Are we not just trained to mourn absence and conditioned to think in our narcism that everyone who does not care for us daily AND lets us know that she or he does, is not a part of us or our life anymore? In times of despair one usually realizes the many wonderful people out there ready to catch you.